Tom Laresca lives in New York with his wife and three children. Currently
working as a foreign stock trader, he attended college at St. John’s
University. Laresca enjoys playing sports and weightlifting.
I
Want to Help: My Story About Cancer, Depression and God is his first
book.
You can visit his website at
http://iwanttohelp1225.com.
ABOUT I WANT TO HELP: MY STORY ABOUT CANCER, DEPRESSION AND GOD
Tom Laresca lived an average life in a quiet American town: a good job as a
stock trader, a wife, a family, a beautiful home. Then in 2001, his life
changed.
While living in Boca Raton, Florida, Laresca explains, “I was wrongly
arrested and abused by the police. I had been an athlete in high school and
college, and had never been in trouble with the law before or since in my
professional career as a stock trader. I was put into intensive care, due
mainly to being maced for thirty minutes while being pinned down, handcuffed
and hogtied. These events all happened in front of my own home in an exclusive
gated community.”
Following the assault, Laresca says his main focus was to get the charges
against him dropped. “For years, I spent time and money on lawyers to make this
happen. The police wanted me to sign a pre-trial intervention (PTI) document,
which would make the charges go away but with me assuming part of the guilt.
But I didn’t want to do that; I wanted them to admit what they did. I spent
years fighting the PTI. Even though the charges finally went away, I
never found out what happened, and the police were never questioned or
investigated. This all took lots of time and money, and I had to miss work.”
During this period, Laresca was diagnosed with cancer in three parts of his
body and faced the grim possibility that he might only have three months to
live. After his treatment and recovery, he then fought a battle with
depression.
“Something told me to write about it.” he says. “I wrote the book in one
night, sent it out to publishers, and went with the first publisher who
answered.”
The book,
I WANT TO HELP: MY STORY ABOUT CANCER, DEPRESSION, AND GOD, is a
tiny book which, as Laresca says, “is written with the sole purpose of helping others
overcome any struggles they may be going through. Not that everyone will go
through something as severe as I did, but I believe that most people at some
time are struggling with
something.”
“The book begins with me learning I had been diagnosed with cancer in three
parts of my body. I recount what it felt like to receive the news from my
doctor, coupled with the grim possibility that I may have three months to live.
I talk about my hospital stay, my fight to stay healthy, both physically and
mentally, but most of all spiritually.
“Next, I tell of going through chemotherapy treatments and on to recovery,
only to be brought down by what I can only say was crippling depression. I go
on to thank God for getting me through all this. Because the truth is that God
brought me through it all, and He is waiting to help you with anything you are
going through.”
Laresca remembers that as a child, he read Norman Vincent Peale’s The
Power
of Positive Thinking. “There were two things that stuck with me: ‘I can do
all things through Christ who strengthens me,’ and ‘If God is for us, who can
be against us?’ Those helped me through everything, and I use this [philosophy]
every day.”
At twenty pages, I WANT TO HELP: MY STORY ABOUT CANCER, DEPRESSION, AND GOD
is so short, Laresca says, because he worked long hours, had three kids, and
not a lot of time. Still, he adds, people who have read it tell him that it’s
helped them in some way, and that he’s heard that grownups have given the book
to their children.
These days, Tom Laresca is much more relaxed, especially now that he’s
written the book. “If reading it can help just one person,” he says, “I’ll be
happy.”
My Death
The
final part of my book I believe is incredible but true. It deals with death, my
death. What makes it even more incredible is that it came at the hands of the
police right in front of my own home. I have 3500 dollars worth of intensive
care bills from that night and I also took a lie detector test to help prove
what I say is true. I had owned a home in a wealthy development in Boca Raton
Florida. I moved back to New York for six months where I have lived most of my
life to start a charity for single moms. I was doing it with Leonard Marshall
form the New York Giants and Vice President of the NFL Lem Burnham. When I
returned to my home in Florida I was unaware that there had been an armed
burglar in our development and police were hired to stay there to find him.
On the
night of the incident I went out my backyard which was situated on the golf course
I went for a little run and as I returned to my home five police officers came
running down my block and shouted at me to stop. I had no idea what they were
doing there but I immediately stopped. They ordered me on my hands and knees I
was completely confused there had never been police officers in our development
we had our own security Wackenhut. I saw one of our security guards and I told
him to tell the police that I lived here. I was approximately 10 feet from my
front lawn, the lights in my house were all on and I pointed to my house and
told the officer I live here. He shouted again for me to get on my hands and
knees you see they thought they had the burglar and I had no idea what was
going on. Before I knew anything else I was pepper sprayed my face felt as
though it were on fire soon after an officer from behind me stripped down my
shorts. I was now naked in front of my own home with my face burning like mad.
Now the officer pulled his gun on me and pointed it directly at my chest and
said “I’ll shoot” I said go ahead. At this point I had had enough he said it
again “I’ll shoot” and put the gun
closer to my chest, so not knowing if he would or not I pushed his gun down. I
know in retrospect it wasn’t the brightest thing to do but how would you feel
if this happened to you right in front of your own home?
I put
my hands behind my back and they put handcuffs on me. The officer then ordered
the security guard to go behind the building and said he would take care of
this. They placed me in the street and laid on top of me I figured he was now
going to get even for making him look foolish again I know pushing his gun down
wasn’t the wisest thing to do put I had no idea they would take the punishment
to the extent to which they did. They began pepper spraying me nonstop for what
seemed 20 minutes, I have the security guard Santiago Diaz sworn testimony stating
he heard me screaming “You’re killing me” and “I can’t breathe” for what he
said was a half an hour. After awhile of them pepper spraying me I could barely
breathe my lunges weren’t getting any oxygen I turned to the officer and asked
are you trying to kill me? He responded “yes”.
I
realized then he wanted me dead and buried along with the embarrassing part of
me getting his gun down. I felt I only had a few breaths left and I knew he was
for real he wanted me dead so I decided to take as a deep a breath as I could
get and hold it put my head down and pretend to be dead so they would get off
me. I did it and it worked but as he rose from my body and thought I was dead
this horrible man patted my shoulder and said “good”. I felt the blood boil
inside me and couldn’t control my mouth to which I said ah you a#%hole you can’t
kill me. I was wrong as he got back down on me and began pepper spraying me
again till I could no longer breathe. I remember dying and what death was like
I also remember coming back to life. I am sure that that officer checked to
make sure I was dead this time only to be sure he wouldn’t be made a fool of
again. What I say is the truth and I am offering the proceeds from my book as a
reward if that officer Sergeant Klaus will take and pass a lie detector test
about that night. So please help me prove the truth that I was dead thank you.
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